August 24, 2019
How should you prepare a good best man speech? Sometimes they are too brief, other times they are too long. At times, they can get so personal or emotional, that the speech giver forgets there are 200 people watching. If the toast is a long list of inside jokes or lines that can only be finished by a few people in the room, then there is an awkwardness that goes through the crowd. If the best man is already intoxicated, then it will be a classic train wreck. The best man does not want to be “that guy!” Being that guy is very easy. If you don’t prepare, just get up and start rambling… you will be that guy!
So where can you start? For the groom looking for a basic outline, use this one:
First and foremost, say thank you. Be gracious. Thank the family, the couple, the new wife especially and those present… thank some of them or all of them. Few speeches go bad if they begin with thankfulness. A strong “Thank You” breaks the ice and sets the tone. You can never go wrong saying thank you.
Few speeches go bad if they begin with thankfulness.
Say something embarrassing or funny. Go here with caution. Remember it is “public funny” not “privately embarrassing.” The story of getting into trouble as children is different than the story of the groom’s ex-girlfriend. Before saying something, as all good comedians usually do… test the material. Ask someone first. The most excited and nervous person during the best man’s toast is the groom. He is expecting "The Roast," but on some level, he also wants to hear something good at that moment as well.
From there, move towards the friendship. This is a chance for you to build back up whatever you said in point two. Here you will mention something about how long you have been friends (or brothers). This is a time to compliment the groom, to praise him. In complimenting the groom, you are complimenting the family, the parents, and most importantly the bride. “She is a lucky person to be with this guy because…,” because of something you have seen or known for some time. Many times, this is something you have known for possibly years before the bride even came into the picture. In honoring the groom, you in turn honor yourself. If all you do is roast or rip the best man, the end result is about you. You are this guy’s best friend. If you are his Best man, then on some level, he has been your Best man.
The close of the toast is a blessing, a wish for the future, good luck, prosperity…Cheers! Based on what was said in points 1, 2, and 3, it is an obvious thing that the future is bright for the couple.
Following the adage of “Do unto others…,” write the speech on some level as if you were wanting to hear this at your wedding.